Masturbation is still one of the heaviest taboos in modern society. It is frequently labeled as dirty or shameful, wrapped in unhelpful rules that tell us our sexuality should be kept hidden away in the dark. This cultural hush creates a massive wave of self-consciousness, guilt, and body shame that can directly trigger mental health issues. It stops us from discussing solo play with our friends or partners, when sharing these ideas is exactly what brings us closer to our bo

When a woman comes into my practice and asks when she will finally hit her sexual peak, I always tell her the exact same thing: it is more of a feeling and a regulation of the nervous system, not a specific date, age, or time of a life stage. There are so many factors that contribute to this. However, I know many women in their 40s will naturally hit their sexual peak because they finally know exactly what they want from their sexual encounters.

Stigma is essentially a pleasure killer because it keeps the body in a state of fight or flight. When we feel like self-pleasure is a secret or a chore, our cortisol stays high and the blood never makes it down to the 10,000 nerve endings where we need it most. Whenever I see my clients, the first thing we talk about is that feeling loved has to start from within. If you can’t love yourself, you can’t fully love another, and this is exactly where masturbation comes in.

I see a lot of seniors navigating life after divorce or bereavement. But as Erobella’s data shows, this newfound freedom is being met with a silent threat, which is a 225% surge in syphilis among the over 65s. This isn't just a health crisis, it’s a symptom of being disconnected from our physical boundaries when it comes to sex. Many clients re-entering the dating world carry a safety barrier, the belief that because pregnancy is no longer a factor, their bodies are closed