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We Listen and We Don’t Judge: When a Viral Trend Crosses the Line From Playful to Toxic
If you’ve been scrolling through social media lately, you have undoubtedly seen couples sitting side-by-side, arms folded, chanting a single phrase into the camera: “We listen and we don’t judge.”
The premise of this viral trend is simple. Partners take turns confessing hidden secrets to each other with the ironclad promise that the other person cannot react or get angry. On the surface, it’s done in a completely jokey way.

Gemma
5 days ago4 min read


The AI Cop-Out: Why Using ChatGPT to Break Up is Ruining Modern Dating
As a relationship coach, I’m seeing a massive shift in how people navigate the hardest parts of dating. Recently, I’ve had a couple of people ask me during my sessions about using ChatGPT or AI to end their relationships. It’s a conversation that has been bubbling under the surface for a while, people used to hire human writers to draft breakup texts, but now they are turning to artificial intelligence to do the heavy lifting.

Gemma
Jun 213 min read


Opening Up: The Ultimate Guide to Hotwifing, Boundaries, and Trust
When I work with couples who are looking to open up their relationship, the journey often leads to a lifestyle known as hotwifing. Far from breaking a couple apart, when done right, it can have a profound effect on a couple's intimacy. It deepens trust, sharpens communication, and brings long-held fantasies into real-life scenarios.

Gemma
Jun 174 min read


Swiping Right on Sensory Play: Inside the World of the Tickling Fetish
When people think of fetishes, their minds often jump to extreme scenarios. But as a sex and relationship coach, I love exploring the softer, highly playful sides of kink, like the tickling fetish.
This is an area where people love the feeling of being tickled, ranging from soft stroking along the skin to BDSM styles or more sensory play where there are light sensations over the body. It’s an incredible tool for intimacy because it allows people to feel at ease, laughing, sq

Gemma
Jun 164 min read


Escaping the Mother-Son Dynamic: How to Fairly Divide Household Chores Without Ruining the Romance
It is one of the most common complaints I hear in my coaching practice, particularly from women: "I feel like I’m running the entire house by myself. I don't feel like a partner anymore, I feel like a mother to my husband."
Despite living in modern times, society still largely pushes domestic chores into the woman’s domain. Let's be completely raw and real about this: it is exhausting. You both work, you both run the house, and maybe you are both parents.

Gemma
Jun 114 min read


The Assumption Trap: When Opposite-Sex Best Friends and Broken Communication Collide
If you spend any time on the internet, you’ve probably scrolled past those viral "Am I The Arsehole?" relationship dilemmas. A recent one caught my eye, and as a relationship coach, I just had to break it down.
Here’s the setup: A husband plans a getaway to a car race with his female best friend. He assumes his wife knows it’s a trip just for the two of them. Meanwhile, the wife assumes she is naturally invited along for a nice holiday, wanting to share an experience her h

Gemma
Jun 73 min read


The 10-Year Renewable Marriage Contract: Brilliant Reframe or Relationship Ruin?
"Til death do us part." For generations, those words have been the golden standard of commitment. But recently, a fascinating concept has been making waves in the relationship world: the renewable marriage contract.
The idea is simple. Instead of a lifelong legal binding, you enter a 10-year marriage contract. When year nine or ten rolls around, you choose whether to amicably let the contract expire and go your separate ways, or actively sign on for another decade together

Gemma
Jun 64 min read


Eating in Bed: Ultimate Comfort or a Relationship Dealbreaker?
There is something undeniably luxurious about crawling under the duvet with a warm bowl of food or a fresh cup of coffee. Whether it’s a lazy Sunday breakfast in bed or a comforting late-night snack after an exhausting day, the bed can feel like the ultimate sanctuary.
But as a relationship and wellness coach, I often look at our daily habits through two lenses: how they affect our bodies (and nervous systems), and how they impact our connections with our partners.

Gemma
Jun 44 min read


Moving In Together: How to Stop Being Roommates and Build a Fulfilling Partnership
Moving in with a partner is an incredibly exciting milestone. You’re picking out furniture, envisioning cozy nights in, and planning your future under one roof. But here is a sobering statistic: more than half of people in the UK say they’ve almost broken up, or actually did break up, after moving in together.

Gemma
Jun 35 min read


The Spring Intimacy Trap: Why Seasonal Optimism Makes Us Skip Sexual Health Check-Ins
As spring arrives, our social calendars fill up, our rigid winter routines naturally loosen, and dating becomes beautifully spontaneous. There is a collective sigh of relief as we step out of the dark.
But this seasonal shift brings a distinct change in sexual health behavior. During this period, people become far more likely to rely on lazy assumptions rather than active health check-ins.

Gemma
May 315 min read


Why Mind-Reading is Ruining Your Relationship (and How to Fix It)
We’ve all been there: wishing our partner could just know exactly what we need without us having to say a word. But is expecting someone to read your mind a realistic standard, or a recipe for heartbreak?

Gemma
May 224 min read
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