When we struggle with a low libido or a lack of intimacy in our relationships, we almost always look for internal answers. We blame our hormones, our stress levels, or our demanding careers. But as a sex and relationship coach, one of the very first things I ask my clients to do is describe their physical environment. Your surroundings speak directly to your subconscious mind. If your bedroom design is flawed, it acts as a constant, silent biological damper on your sex life.