Week 11: The Pleasure Edit — Shared Connection, Body Support & Adventurous Intimacy
Building on our earlier essentials from week 10, this week focuses on couple’s connection, posture and pelvic support, honest thoughts on bedroom accessories, and gentle, safe exploration into beginner kink and anal wellness.
1. Cupio Remote Controlled Adjustable Love Ring Review
If you and your partner are ready to take performance pressure off the table and truly share sensations during intimacy, this couple’s toy is such a fun one to bring into the bedroom. Darren and I gave the Cupio Remote Controlled Adjustable Love Ring a go to see how it handled clitoral stimulation and erection support together.
The ring is made from velvety, body-safe silicone featuring an adjustable base band, 10 vibration modes, and a pair of flexible rabbit ears designed to buzz against the clitoris during penetrative sex. It also comes with a compact wireless remote so you don’t have to fumble around with buttons mid-play.
We both really liked the vibration side, the rumbling pulses are strong, and it did indeed make me climax. The motor sends vibrations through both bodies at once, creating a lovely shared buzz. However, during movement, I found that the flexible rabbit ears kept slipping off my clitoris, meaning we had to adjust our angles to keep them sitting right. Even with having to reposition, the pleasure was fantastic, and having the remote control means you can play together without getting slippery hands on the toy controls.
Gemma’s Coaching Tip: Only use a small dab of water-based lube with this one so the band doesn't slide off target. In couples coaching, the biggest barrier to great sex is often performance anxiety—worrying about stamina or whether your partner is enjoying themselves. Handing the wireless remote over to the receiving partner turns intimacy into a playful, shared game that syncs your breathing and takes the pressure off.
Most definitely worth checking out if you want a playful, adjustable ring that brings extra buzz and shared pleasure to date night.
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2. Sex Enhancer Pillow with Pleasure Wand Kit Review
If you ever get pulled out of the mood by lower back aches, hip tension, knee strain, or awkward angles, this kit is going to change everything for you. Darren and I tested out the Sex Enhancer Pillow with Pleasure Wand Kit, and we both really, really liked it.
In my coaching work, I often suggest popping a normal bed pillow under the hips, but using a purpose-built firm wedge is a completely different ball game. Regular pillows squish flat in seconds and leave you sliding around, whereas this ergonomic wedge has a dense, supportive foam core that holds full body weight without collapsing.
(Tip: When it comes out of the packaging, give it about 24 hours to fully expand before using!)
We used it to tilt my pelvis higher and experiment with new angles. That extra elevation made a massive difference, it allowed Darren to go much deeper without either of us straining, creating far more friction and direct pleasure. Because of my hip dysplasia, it took an immense amount of pressure off my pelvis, completely removing the effort of holding myself up so my pelvic floor could fully relax. The kit also includes a compact wand with three heads (which docks upright into the pillow for hands-free grinding!), plus lube and toy cleaner.
Gemma’s Coaching Tip: Tuck the wedge beneath your hips or lower back, exhale deeply, and let the foam take your full weight. Tilting the pelvis opens up internal angles, exposing the G-spot and clitoral nerve networks to effortless contact. When your hip flexors aren't clenching to keep you propped up, your nervous system channels that energy straight into deeper, wave-like climaxes.
If you want to take the physical strain out of intimacy, try exciting new positions, and deepen your connection, this kit is well worth having in your bedroom.
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3. Extra Girth Penis Sleeve Review
I always promise to give you my completely honest, real-life thoughts on what works for us and what doesn't. We tried out the Extra Girth Penis Sleeve to see if it would add something new to our bedroom play, especially for anyone looking for extra thickness or stamina pacing.
The sleeve is made from very stretchy, silky TPE with an open-ended tip so the head of the penis stays uncovered for direct sensation, textured ribbing along the underside, and a built-in base loop to hold firmness.
However, during intercourse, I personally didn't like it. For my body, it stretched me way too much and created far too much pressure against my vaginal walls, which felt uncomfortable rather than pleasurable. Darren liked it a little bit, but he noted it felt quite strange because he couldn't feel the full warmth of me with the thick sleeve in the way. Every body is unique—while it wasn't the right fit for us, it could be great for someone who craves a much fuller sensation or wants to buffer shaft sensitivity to last longer.
Gemma’s Top Tip: If you decide to try a TPE sleeve, use generous amounts of water-based lube on both the inside of the sleeve and along the penis before rolling it on to prevent any friction or pulling on the skin. Remember: great sex isn't about forcing every toy to work; it's about listening to your body and honoring what feels good!
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4. 3 Piece Pink Bondage Kit Review
If you and your partner have ever felt curious about exploring light kink or power dynamics but felt intimidated by heavy leather or ropes, a beginner kit is designed to strip that scare factor away.
Darren and I tested the 3 Piece Pink Bondage Kit, and keeping it 100% honest: it wasn't really for us. We had a light-hearted giggle through it, but roleplay and restraint aren't our cup of tea. That said, if you genuinely want to dip your toes into BDSM without feeling overwhelmed, it's a very gentle, friendly way to start. The kit includes an ultra-soft padded satin blindfold, faux-fur lined pink handcuffs with safety-release keys, and a lightweight faux-leather teaser flogger. The flogger felt like a soft tickler across my back and gave me lovely full-body tingles.
Gemma’s Coaching Rule for Kink: Never introduce restraints in the heat of the moment. Chat first over a cuppa on the sofa. Agree on simple traffic-light safe words: Green (love it), Yellow (slow down/adjust), and Red (stop immediately). Start small with the blindfold—taking away sight naturally dials up your other senses without feeling trapped. Always finish with aftercare: cuddles, water, and checking in so your nervous system feels grounded and safe.
A fun, cheeky entry point if you want to experiment with light restraint without taking yourselves too seriously.
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5. Love Lube Anal Water Based Lubricant (150ml) Review
So many people are curious about exploring anal play or using plugs during date night, but hesitation, worry, and tight muscles stop them before they begin. When you feel anxious, your body enters fight-or-flight mode—redirecting blood flow away from the pelvis and clenching your muscles. Having the right product by your bedside changes everything.
What makes this UK-bottled lube stand out from daily lubes is its rich, pillowy cushion that gives you long-lasting glide without sticky residue. Crucially, it is infused with gentle natural relaxing properties to help soften surrounding muscles without any numbing agents. Numbing sprays can be risky because they block your natural pain cues; with Love Lube Anal, you stay in total control of every sensation.
Gemma’s 'Two-Minute Rule': Always use way more lube than you think you need, coating both your body and your toy generously. Before attempting any insertion, pause for two minutes: place a warm, flat hand gently over the area, close your eyes, and take slow, deep belly exhales. This gives the relaxing ingredients time to absorb while letting your sphincter muscles soften naturally. Never force anything; when your body feels safe, guarded tension melts away.
Most definitely a must-have bottle if you want to explore new realms of intimacy with zero stress and pure comfort!
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6. Ribbed Silicone Butt Plug Set Review
If you’ve felt held back by anxiety about starting too big or losing control, this graduated kit is a reassuring way to begin. Training your body should never feel intimidating, and having a set that steps up slowly puts you 100% in the driver's seat.
The set includes four body-safe silicone plugs with wide flared safety bases, stepping gradually from a beginner 2.5-inch plug up through 3-inch, 3.5-inch, and 4-inch sizes. The velvety silicone has a forgiving flex through the neck, moving comfortably with your body. The spiral ribbing creates subtle micro-friction against sensory nerve endings just inside the entrance, helping retrain your nervous system to associate that fullness with relaxation rather than clenching.
Gemma’s Golden Coaching Rule: Never treat anal training like a race to the largest size. Coat both yourself and the plug generously with thick anal lube. Warm up the smallest plug in your hands, rest the tapered tip at the entrance, and take a long, slow exhale as you ease it in. My favourite exercise is to simply wear the smallest size while reading or relaxing in bed—letting the sphincter adapt in a calm "rest and digest" state before ever considering the next size up.
Give your body permission to take things slow and ease in at your own pace—there is zero rush!
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And that brings us to the end of this edit! If there is one thing I hope you take away from this week, it’s that great sex is never about forcing a position, ticking boxes, or rushing through discomfort. Whether it’s giving your hips a helping hand with a positioning wedge or learning to take a slow, two-minute exhale before trying something new, pleasure always expands when your nervous system feels completely safe.
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Here’s to deeper connection, taking off the pressure, and honouring your body’s unique pace.
With love and pleasure,
Gemma x
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