How To Spice Up Your Sex Life Whilst On Holiday, Without Sex Toys

Going away on holiday is the perfect opportunity for you and your partner to break away from the heavy routines and schedules of everyday life. When you leave your home environment, you also leave behind the constant lists, chores, and responsibilities that keep your system locked down. This break creates a beautiful, open space to completely focus on each other and explore your intimacy in a whole new way.

The main focus here is to focus on building the intimacy, connection and communication back up by being open, honest, raw and real with the desires you would like.

You can talk and be open about what type of fantasies you would like to bring into the bedroom. As you are on holiday and away from the normal day to day stresses, your body is in the rest and digest mode, your calming response making you feel more relaxed and in safe mode. When you are in safe mode, your body can relax, making you have better orgasms. You don’t have the daily stresses keeping you from feeling safe.

Sensory Play and Different Locations

Try to focus on sensory play so maybe bringing in food or adding oils to your sensual play. You could even try different areas within the hotel room or even on the balcony without being seen. (Remember it is illegal in most countries for sex outside if you are seen.)

• Heightening the Senses: When you bring in sensory play, try to close off one of your senses, say using a blindfold. This will heighten the other senses, making it for a more erotic experience.

  
  

• Cold Play: If you are somewhere hot, maybe bring in cold play, eg ice. Using ice on the body will heighten the senses giving you more pleasure. You could bring the ice towards the genitals and go slowly, keeping focus on the sensations it gives you.

  
  

• Bringing Drink into the Mix: Bring drink into the mix if you want to. Maybe some champagne or non-alcoholic drinks. Start by sitting on each other and pouring it over each others bodies. Use this as a massage lubricant, rubbing your bodies together. If it stings, wash off and start again with something else.

  
  

• Different Textures: Bring different textures into your sexual pleasure. Maybe trying to add a bit of the pillow case to your genital’s and rub up and down against it. Maybe rub the side of the bed gently to see how it feels. Add in different things and see what feels good and what doesn’t.

  
  

Deeper Experiences and New Techniques

• Mutual Masturbation: You could add in mutual masturbation where you only touch yourself and your partner only touches themselves. Watch each other, how is your breath, how are you moving to your senses, what noises are you making but only using your hands, food or anything else other than toys as you don’t have them. This will allow you both to know exactly how your partner like sot be touched and what gives them an orgasm because you will be watching their every move. You can watch the blood flow to the genitals, allowing for a more deeper experience with an orgasm.

  
  

• One-Sided Exploration: Focus on playing with your partner only and not letting them touch you. Explore using your tongue, fingers, back of finger nails, massage candles etc. This will heighten play and sensations around the body. Then swap around and see how it feels.

  
  

• Shower Scrubs: If one of you normally initiates sex, then the other one try to initiate it more. Try maybe doing it in different rooms and even in the shower. Use sensual techniques to touch each other in shower. Give each other a lathered-up shower scrub touching and brushing past each other genitals to get the heightened sensations.

• Edging: Also try edging, where you play and tease each other until you are nearly at orgasm, then come away and calm down. Keep this going for a few hours or even over the course of a day or so. This when you do climax will give you some amazing orgasms. I get my clients to do this a lot as it brings the connection back again which they feel they have lost.

• Erotic Reading: Read an erotic novel and maybe rein act it out. Or just read snippets to each other. This will start to get your juices flowing.

• Big Adventurous Activities: Go on a big adventurous activity like dune buggying, sky diving, surfing or quad biking instead of lounging around the pool. This will heighten your senses, giving you more excitement and adrenaline within your body. You can then bring that back to your room and try out new things.

Tantric Breathwork: Circulatory Breathing

Use tantric breath work practices. I get my clients to do this a lot and it really helps to bring the connection back. This one is called Circulatory breathing. This breathing technique is designed to create an energetic circle of sexual energy that connects you and your partner. It’s best done at the beginning of foreplay and both of you are naked.

One person sits in a cross-legged position while the other person straddles. You can really feel the energy circulating in this position. When starting out, you might want to verbalize what’s happening, but you don’t have to do this the entire time. Let yourself settle into the awkwardness. It’s going to feel contrived and weird at first, but once you get the hang of it, it can be super fun.

How to Do It:

• Imagine that you have a well of sexual energy at the bottom of your pelvic floor.

• Breathe in and tightly contract your pelvic floor muscles for about four to eight seconds.

• As you breathe out and release your muscles, visualize the energy moving up through your body and squirting out the top of your head, like a fountain, toward your partner’s head.

• Your partner then imagines bringing that energy in from the top of their head down to their pelvic floor, where they release the energy and pass it back to you.

• Continue the cycle until you feel satisfied.

  
  

This can be done in the opposite direction, too, starting with you releasing energy from your pelvic floor instead of your head.

Above all have fun, play safe and always use lube for extra satisfaction.

Let’s Open the Conversation

Are you planning a holiday soon and want to try out some of these techniques, or do you find it hard to drop into rest and digest mode once you return back to your normal day-to-day stresses?

Let’s share our thoughts openly in the comments section below. If you are struggling to build the intimacy, connection, and communication back up in your relationship right now, reach out today to book a 1:1 somatic breakthrough coaching session. Let's work together to help you be open, honest, raw, and real with your desires.