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I was recently asked by The Sun newspaper to share my professional insights on a relationship trend that puzzles so many: Why do highly successful, intelligent women consistently fall for bad boys? When a woman has her career, finances, and life completely locked down, you would think she’d look for stability in her love life. But often, the exact opposite happens. If you missed the article in the press, here is my full expert breakdown of the psychology...

Stigma is essentially a pleasure killer because it keeps the body in a state of fight or flight. When we feel like self-pleasure is a secret or a chore, our cortisol stays high and the blood never makes it down to the 10,000 nerve endings where we need it most. Whenever I see my clients, the first thing we talk about is that feeling loved has to start from within. If you can’t love yourself, you can’t fully love another, and this is exactly where masturbation comes in.

Living in close proximity to people means our personal lives and social boundaries naturally overlap. But what happens when neighborly relations become a bit more complicated?

When I work with couples who are looking to open up their relationship, the journey often leads to a lifestyle known as hotwifing. Far from breaking a couple apart, when done right, it can have a profound effect on a couple's intimacy. It deepens trust, sharpens communication, and brings long-held fantasies into real-life scenarios.

I am so excited to bring The Pleasure Guide from gemmanice.com straight over to the blog. For this first week, I wanted to share three products that are completely different from standard flat vibrators or just using your fingers. These are all about giving you a completely different orgasm, whether you want a slow build-up on a quiet evening or want to add something new to your sexual antics with your partner.

Have you ever noticed that you snack significantly more when you are in a relationship? Or perhaps you have found yourself hiding your favorite treats at the back of the pantry so your partner won't find them? We are diving deep into the fascinating connection between our love lives and our eating habits. Food is a central pillar of how we socialise, bond, and cope with our feelings. But when does shared snacking cross the line from cozy comfort into emotional secrecy?

When people think of fetishes, their minds often jump to extreme scenarios. But as a sex and relationship coach, I love exploring the softer, highly playful sides of kink, like the tickling fetish. This is an area where people love the feeling of being tickled, ranging from soft stroking along the skin to BDSM styles or more sensory play where there are light sensations over the body. It’s an incredible tool for intimacy because it allows people to feel at ease, laughing, sq

When it comes to building a deeply connected, thriving relationship, understanding how you and your partner give and receive affection is everything. This is where the concept of The 5 Love Languages becomes an invaluable tool.

Many of my coaching clients feel they cannot be open, honest, or raw with each other, especially regarding STIs and sharing results. With syphilis at a 77-year high and scabies jumping by 43%, the message is clear: society does more damage than the infections themselves. The fear of shame surrounds conditions that are easily treated. In my coaching, I believe a vibrant sex life is a pillar of overall wellness for both body and mind.

The home café trend is taking over social media, but it is much more than just a aesthetic home decor movement. As a sex and relationship coach, I look at the environments we build and how they affect our emotional state. Transforming a corner of your house into a cozy, personal coffee shop creates a relaxed, comfortable atmosphere that you simply cannot get in a busy public space. Whether you are looking to reignite a romantic spark, support a friend in need of a heart-to-he

I see a lot of seniors navigating life after divorce or bereavement. But as Erobella’s data shows, this newfound freedom is being met with a silent threat, which is a 225% surge in syphilis among the over 65s. This isn't just a health crisis, it’s a symptom of being disconnected from our physical boundaries when it comes to sex. Many clients re-entering the dating world carry a safety barrier, the belief that because pregnancy is no longer a factor, their bodies are closed

With the massive success of The Summer I Turned Pretty on our screens and bookshelves, fans on TikTok have been locked in a fierce debate over Team Conrad vs. Team Jeremiah. But if we strip away the romantic music and look at the behavior objectively, Jeremiah's actions during the wedding storyline raise some serious, real-life relationship red flags. As a sex and relationship coach, I analyse these dynamics to help people spot toxic patterns in their own lives.

You would think the UK’s oldest, most prestigious universities would be leading the charge in student care. Instead, they frequently score the lowest for LGBTQ+ friendliness. Why? It really comes down to deep-seated institutional barriers. These older universities have been set in their ways for centuries. They are operating on archaic rulebooks that simply haven't moved with the times or evolved to match the cultural backgrounds of today's students.

When we think of wedding gifts, it is easy to get caught up in the standard department store registries. But as a sex and relationship coach, I look at gifts through a completely different lens: How will this token support the marriage long after the wedding day is over? Thoughtful, personalised keepsakes and experience-based gifts aren’t just beautiful objects; they are substantial representations of a couple's shared history and future dreams.

Every year, major media outlets drop their global sex and data surveys, and the headlines always spark a massive conversation. From shifting search terms to viral adult creator stunts, the data gives us a fascinating snapshot of human desire. But as a relationship and intimacy coach, I don't just look at what people are searching for. I look at the underlying cultural shifts, the psychological impacts, and what these numbers actually mean for our real-world bedroom habits. Le

Choosing to stay friends with an ex after a short-term relationship presents a very specific set of hurdles. While the romance might have been brief, the emotional fallout can be surprisingly intense. As a relationship coach, I often see clients struggle with lingering romantic or sexual feelings, unwanted attention, and the sheer difficulty of maintaining platonic boundaries when the breakup is still fresh.

It is one of the most common complaints I hear in my coaching practice, particularly from women: "I feel like I’m running the entire house by myself. I don't feel like a partner anymore, I feel like a mother to my husband." Despite living in modern times, society still largely pushes domestic chores into the woman’s domain. Let's be completely raw and real about this: it is exhausting. You both work, you both run the house, and maybe you are both parents.

As a sex and relationship coach, I often see couples looking for new ways to deepen their intimacy and explore their desires. One topic that frequently comes up in media commentary is cuckolding. While it might seem taboo to some, it is a highly popular and deeply intimate lifestyle choice when approached with honesty and respect. Here is a breakdown of what cuckolding actually is, why couples enjoy it, and how you can safely explore it.

Let’s talk about a dirty little secret that is currently hiding in one in five bedroom drawers. Recent survey data has revealed a shocking statistic: 20% of people are not cleaning their sex toys after every use.

Summer brings a shift in how we live, interact, and connect with others. While many look forward to the warmer months for holidays and socialising, data shows that sexually transmitted infections consistently rise during this time of year. Understanding the biological, environmental, and behavioral factors behind this seasonal spike is crucial for managing your sexual health. Here are the four distinct reasons why STIs peak in the summer.