The Pleasure Guide
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Welcome to my curated look at modern pleasure. From the latest innovations at Lovehoney to the essentials from Pulse & Cocktails, I’m stripping away the marketing talk to give you the truth. Whether you’re exploring solo vibrators or looking to reconnect with couples' play, these honest reviews offer the ratings and recommendations you need to invest in your joy.
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CBD Hybrid Lube & Massage Oil Bundle - Review – Pulse & Cocktails
I am in love with the CBD lube and massage oil.
CBD Hybrid Lube
This CBD lube is incredible at opening blood vessels within the genitals. We loved the silky texture. It’s a white substance that turns clear on skin or toys. It’s thicker than other lubes with a wonderful sweet and lemongrass scent. Having tried many lubes, this is high on our list.
Applied to my vulva, it gave a pleasant warming sensation. When my husband blew on it, it created a tingle. It works well with silicone toys, providing a nice feel. Two pumps were more than enough for our entire session. It isn’t sticky and glides easily. I also love the gold and black 100ml bottle.
I highly recommend this for dryness, vaginismus, tight pelvic floor muscles, or stress during penetration. It helps open blood vessels and relax muscles, allowing nerves to function so you feel calm. It keeps you in the parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest) rather than the sympathetic (fight or flight). Since we hold stress in the pelvic floor, this relaxation leads to a better sexual experience. The CBD wakes up the nerves for increased arousal and natural lubrication. Its anti-inflammatory properties also calm localized swelling and act as natural pain relief. This lube is nontoxic and unlike some others it is condom compatible.
CBD Hybrid Massage Oil
This oil is fantastic and doesn’t disappoint. It’s great for aching muscles, especially tight shoulders and the lower back. The CBD active ingredients help blood flow and provide anti-inflammatory properties that aid cell regeneration.
The oil isn't sticky, rubs in well, and a small amount goes a long way. It has the same easy pump action and a beautiful scent of lemon, ginger, and olive fruit. It isn’t overpowering and sinks in well, leaving skin soft rather than oily. I highly recommend this for an intimate regime or to relieve general aches and pains.
This is priced at £44.95.
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Sliding Skin Realistic Dong With Balls 8.5 Inch - Review – Pulse & Cocktails
The Wellbeing Benefits of Self-Pleasure
My husband and I have been testing this realistic dildo and really enjoying it. Compared to others, it features "sliding skin" that mimics human physiology. The inner shaft is firm, but the realistic skin and veins over the top make it feel like a real penis during penetration.
The realistic head feels great internally, inserting it just 3-4 inches will heighten and activate the 10,000+ nerves located there. We both like the feel and the generous 7.5-inch insertable length. When combined with a high-quality lubricant, especially a CBD lube for relaxation, the experience is enhanced.
While the testicles don't move as much as expected, there is good sensation during penetration. The suction pad is excellent for the shower or bath, as it is 100% waterproof. Due to its girth, I recommend slow, mindful penetration. It can feel cold initially, so I suggest warming it in water first. It is also harness-compatible.
Why I recommend this. This is perfect for solo or partnered play to add tease and intrigue. However, if you are working through vaginismus or pelvic floor tension, this model may be too advanced, I’d suggest starting with something more slender to prioritise comfort.
Climaxing releases oxytocin, dopamine, and endorphins, leaving us feeling calm and regulated. The post-climax release of prolactin acts as a gentle sedative, helping you bypass busy thoughts for deeper sleep. It’s a form of meditation that grounds you, quiets the mind, and builds confidence. Regular arousal also increases vascular health in the pelvic region, promoting tissue health and natural lubrication. Think of self-pleasure as a nervous system reset. When we prioritise our pleasure, we become more resilient versions of ourselves.
This is priced at £44.95.
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Tower of Pleasure – The Ultimate Adult Foreplay Game - Review – Pulse & Cocktails
Tower of Pleasure – The Ultimate Adult Foreplay Game - Review – Pulse & Cocktails
I absolutely loved this foreplay date idea toy. Darren and I have quite good foreplay, well we thought we did but then this game came along and gave us so many more ideas. We loved it. We’ve played it a few times now and it just keeps giving us loads of fun. Its definitely a fun, seductive and sexy Jenga style game.
This is a great date night idea to build the Communication, Trust and Intimacy back up. If you feel like you are stuck with any of those, then this game is for you. I love the colours of the stack. Darren and I made an evening out of it. We set out a soft rug and soft cushions on the living room floor, lite some sensual candles, had the lighting low and put on some tantric music. This set the evening for a calm, inviting environment. We then got comfy and started the game. It really was fun to pull out the bricks and see which dare we each had to do. It made it fun as we were laughing, having a great time and being in the moment rather than being stressed with work or something else. We managed to do quite a few challenges and then I knocked the stack down by pulling out a purple brick. I’m too competitive really.
There are 54 blocks in total each with their own dare or foreplay task to do. The way this game works is that to get the points to win the game, you have to take out a brick and do the task it says for 10-15 seconds and then your partner can go. The player with the most points then initiates $ex where or whenever. Do each dare as they come up or get pulled from the stack of bricks.
There is a point system. All the Green blocks are worth 1 Point. All the Pink blocks are worth 2 Points and all the Purple blocks are worth 3 Points.
I love the packaging on this box. The colour is purple with green, pink and purple writing which stands out. There is a window where you can see the bricks through the packaging so you can see what you are getting.
I highly recommend this product if you are struggling for date night ideas or you just need a little connection and interaction between the two of you. This is great for all of those to being some funness back into your relationship.
This is priced at £19.99.
I’m certainly recommending it to my clients.
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Black and Blue Lace Bustier with Garter Straps – Review – Pulse & Cocktails
Black and Blue Lace Bustier with Garter Straps – Review – Pulse & Cocktails
I was so happy to receive this lingerie as I know how well these fit and look on me. It comes in a little white and pink bag with a Ziplock on the top.
As I have a lot of meetings in person and on zoom, I always like to feel powerful and sexy, so underneath my suit jacket I wear some sexy lingerie. It doesn’t matter what people think of you, its how it makes you feel and by wearing this it really does make me feel calm, happy and in control.
Does what you wear under your suit affect how you lead a boardroom meeting? This Black and Blue Lace Bustier with Garter Straps comes from Pulse & Cocktails. What we wear underneath our professional attire changes our posture and mindset. This makes us feel so much more empowered.
There is a unique power in having a secret that only you know. In a professional setting, this creates a sense of power and control. This then gives you the power to believe in your ability to succeed.
According to research on body language, when we feel supported and refined by our lingerie, our shoulders tend to go back, and our spine straightens. This then gives us a higher level of testosterone meaning dominance/confidence hormone and lower levels of cortisol our stress hormone.
This is made from intricate black and blue lace. The lace against the skin acts as a constant sensory anchor. It feels so good against the skin and I know its there so when things get tough, I can think of this, how it feels against my skin and be in the moment, breathing, rather than feeling stressed.
I love the way the thong feels. It has a gap at the front which looks incredibly sexy on and feels soft against my skin.
In a high-pressure meeting, this soft, luxurious sensation can act as a grounding mechanism, keeping you present in your body rather than spiralling into anxiety.
This is beautifully put together and looks so sexy on my body. It really can make you feel so powerful and in control which I love. There are also beautiful clips for the garter or stockings. I love the colour and the way the lace feels to touch. Its very soft and delicate, exactly how I like my lingerie to be.
So next time you want to feel sexy, in control, sophisticated and powerful, go and buy this from Pulse & Cocktails.
Priced at £39.95. Use the code ‘GEMMA’ for a 15% discount at the checkout. Click here to buy your set.
We- Vibe X Lovehoney Moxie + App Remote Controlled Wearable Clitoral Vibrator - Review - Lovehoney
We- Vibe X Lovehoney Moxie + App Remote Controlled Wearable Clitoral Vibrator Review - Lovehoney
What a great little vibrator. The first thing I noticed was how soft and silky it felt. It's just over three inches long and fits perfectly into the inset of the panties. I've never used a toy like this before, so I was excited to try it. I already have other vibrators, but this one is completely different. I love the colour, the packaging, and even the box it comes in. As usual, Lovehoney's packaging is discreet, arriving in a little pouch for storage.
The remote control offers 10 different modes, or you can use the app. My husband and I tried it with the app, and it was great. It was very easy to set up, and we found it didn't lose the Bluetooth connection, which a lot of other reviews mentioned.
I first tried it in the shower while my husband was in another room, controlling the modes. It felt good in the shower since it's 100% waterproof. At first, the powerful mode felt a bit too intense, but as I got used to it, it was fantastic.
I then tried it with my knickers. It comes with two magnets—one sits on the outside of the fabric, while the other is a spare. The vibrator itself sits between the fabric and your clitoris. I moved around the room, sat down, and tried different positions while my husband used the app to change the vibrations. You can even sync it to music, which we are excited to try next.
The app is really easy to use and has a great interface. I was able to climax just by sitting down, though I was tilting my pelvis slightly to get the full sensation.
I tried it while out for a coffee. While I thought it was a bit loud at home, it was certainly discreet in a busy coffee shop. My husband and I had some fun during our coffee date. Next, we're going to try it out on a date night at a restaurant.
I also tried it with different trousers. Jeans made it sit closer to my clitoris, while some baggy work trousers didn't provide as much pressure, so I had to tilt my pelvis to get the full effect.
I would highly recommend this for long-distance relationships because your partner can control the vibrator with the app. This is a great way to keep the spark alive and have fun.
It is quite noisy on the highest settings, but that doesn’t take away from how amazing this little toy is. The discreet drawstring pouch fits neatly in a purse. I am absolutely in love with this little vibrator and can't wait to use it again.
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Fifty Shades of Grey Play Nice Vanilla Scented Candle 90g - Review - Lovehoney
Fifty Shades of Grey Play Nice Vanilla Scented Candle 90g - Review - Lovehoney
I love the Fifty Shades franchise, so I thought, "Why not add something new to our sexual antics?" and gave this a try. The box is very nice, with shades of black, grey, white, and purple. As with all Lovehoney products, it was beautifully packaged and arrived discreetly. When I opened the box, a lovely waft of vanilla filled the room.
We put it on the bedside table, and even without it being lit, the vanilla aroma filled the room. It smells so divine and certainly sets a sensual and romantic mood. It was easy to light, and after a few minutes, the wax started to melt. We poured some of the hot oil onto our bodies and massaged it in. It felt very silky and rubbed in easily without leaving a waxy feeling on the skin. The wax is warm when applied and is made of a high-quality soy wax that can be used as a massage oil. It spreads well and smells amazing on the skin. It’s a very sensual candle, and we will certainly use it again—even just to set the scene for a nice evening if we don't fancy a massage. I would highly recommend this to spice up your sex life or just to feel connected to each other.
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Fleshlight Girls Vanna Bardot Dopamine Texture - Review - Lovehoney
Fleshlight Girls Vanna Bardot Dopamine Texture - Review - Lovehoney
My husband fancied this product.
The silicone vulva is modeled to an actual model and does look very realistic. The whole toy is silicone on the inside. The outer casing is plastic and is easy to hold when in use. The inner silicone part comes completely out of the outer casing to be washed. At the bottom of the fleshlight there is a screw cup base which you can unscrew or screw up for the pressure to increase or decrease. My husband couldn't really notice a difference in sensation when it was open or closed from the suction.
He said it didn't really feel like a real vulva when fully in but it did feel like it when the penis first went in. There is a ribbed texture at different lengths which help to keep you feeling the realness of a vulva.
It does require a lot of lube to be pumped into it before use. It can be warmed up but that requires something else to buy. Also with the clean up, you can buy special cleaning products to keep the inside of it open for the air flow. It did take days to dry.
Great packaging and as always discreet from Lovehoney. The actual packaging of the product is great. It is quite a big product to keep somewhere. Think of a giant torch you have for DIY, that large.
Here are his pro's and cons for the Fleshlight.
Pros:
Feels better than a hand.
Can be used in various positions.
Like how it feels when you really push against it.
Was able to aid edging techniques as the control is better than using a hand.
The feeling when finishing is amazing. You're able to hold that orgasm for longer than you would just using hands.
Cons:
Cleaning is a nightmare.
Feels like a proper chore to clean out all of your fluids and the lube.
Drying takes an absolute age as it takes a number of days to properly dry out inside. Trying to discreetly dry it out somewhere in the house with children around is a real worry.
May feel like a lot of effort after the fun had ended.
Feels like you have to purchase the official drying tool along with the softening powder to get the best out of it.
Enjoy and happy humping.
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Lovehoney Dark Orchid Navy Satin and Lace Chemise - Review - Lovehoney
Lovehoney Dark Orchid Navy Satin and Lace Chemise - Review - Lovehoney
Beautiful and very sexy
I chose this nightwear as I wanted to feel even sexier. The way it drapes over my body feels great. I love the roucheness of the front of it, the way the satin gathers up at the front just in front of the chest. The lace at the bottom of the garment looks lovely.
There is a little discreet Lovehoney silver heart on the left shoulder strap which is cute. Little touches like this I love.
I love the styling of the halter neck. I hadn't really thought about how the straps would feel as I don't usually wear halter neck dresses but this one is great. Easy to adjust straps on both sides so can make it longer or shorter at the neck.
The dark orchard navy is a very sexy beautiful colour. Good sizing. I'm a size 10 and this is medium. Quite short but gives a nice figure from all sides. Very nice to sleep in as it is so soft against my skin and is great for warm summer nights. My husband likes this a lot and can't keep his hands off me.
Would highly recommend if you want to feel sexier in your nightwear.
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Liquid Silk Lube 250ml - Review - Lovehoney
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Liquid Silk Lube 250ml - Review - Lovehoney
Silky, Lubey.
I liked the description of this lube, as there are so many out there I wasn't sure which one would fit my needs compared to another one I use but this was great.
I have a few silicone toys which need a water based lube and this one was a perfect blend to use with those as well as in general.
It gives a silky feel to it but doesn't last as long as some of the rival ones. It dries up pretty quickly. I do however like the pump action to the bottle. It's very easy to use and pumps well. It warms quickly in your hand compared to others which is a bonus in the winter.
It's easy to clean off using water as it's water based. It doesn't taste of anything and doesn't have a smell to it. Great price. Would definitely recommend.
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Lovehoney Womanizer Enhance Pink Pleasure Air Clitoral Vibrator Review - Lovehoney
Lovehoney Womanizer Enhance Pink Pleasure Air Clitoral Vibrator Review - Lovehoney
Incredible!!
This toy is incredible at making me orgasm. It feels soft to the touch like a silky feel to it when brushing fingers over it, but it’s hard and firm. There are quite a few variations you can use, and the added air technology is fantastic. When the air technology is on, it feels cool around the clitoris, making it give different sensations around the whole of the area. I’ve never felt something like this from a toy before. The hole at the top of the toy which fits over the hood of the clitoris feels good against the vulval tissue. The sensations it gives are incredible with different wave patterns and different vibrations depending on the intensity you set it at. The toy is chargeable via USB which is great. I love the colours it comes in. It is shaped in a way for ease and comfort. I’ve tried in the bed next to my partner and also in the shower as its 100% waterproof.
I tried the air motor separately to the vibrations and it gives a different sensation each time you change the modes. As you can choose which to have, the vibrations from it start smooth then move to more of a rumbling sensation depending on the intensity you set it at. When on fully, it is quite loud and there was a cracking noise with the lube against my clitoris if the hood wasn’t fully over it but that didn’t stop me from orgasming twice both with different modes. It gave me a completely different orgasm both times compared to when I use fingers or other toys. This is a great combination. It’s made from silicone, and I use a water-based lube with it.
My next endeavour will be to try to squirt from it as my husband and I have been trying for a while, but I still haven’t managed to. I think this definitely will get me there. I absolutely love the packaging. Very beautifully packaged with soft sensual colours. Discreet packaging from Lovehoney as well which is good for those of you who don’t want to share your wears with the neighbours.
Most definitely worth investing in as it will give you so much intense pleasure. I for one am hooked.
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Liberator Fascinator Faux Fur Moisture Proof Throw – Queen - Review - Lovehoney
Liberator Fascinator Faux Fur Moisture Proof Throw – Queen - Review - Lovehoney
What an incredible piece of equipment this is!!
We got this because we like doing food play and messy play. It is big at 54 -72 inches, and it pretty much covers our king size bed. It is very soft on both sides with one side being furrier with the faux fur and the other side being velvety. We’ve tried cream, mashed banana, chocolate, oils and different forms of drinks including champagne and everything that was put on it never came through the other side. Its great absorbency and when used for a little while and then washed, the absorbency gets even better.
If you are a squirter then this is definitely one for you, you don’t have to worry about towels or worry about getting the bed wetter. We put it in the wash afterwards and it came out looking like new. It looks really nice against our bed and looks just like a luxury throw at the bottom of the bed against the cushions. It doesn’t look out of place if someone were to come into the bedroom. It just looks like a normal throw which could be used as a throw on the sofa in the winter as well as the bed.
It feels really nice to wrap up in naked feeling the very soft textures against the skin when dry.
When it’s wet it doesn't feel cold and doesn’t pool when the blanket gets pushed down with the weight of your body into the bed. It also absorbs very well so there is no slipping and sliding (although a negative if you wanted that). Sometimes with the weight of the body when kneeling, you have to be careful that the edges don't fall away into you, making the blanket crease up slightly. This wasn’t really a distraction though.
The packaging is great. It comes with a cardboard wrap with a couple laying on the top of the blanket, very sexy styling. I love the little insert which tells you a little about the blanket that it gets better over time, like a fine wine.
You can’t hear the waterproof lining at all in the blanket which is good because it can put you off sometimes when the mood strikes and you hear a lot of rustling. Which some of them you can do.
We tried it on the sofa and tucked it behind the back sofa cushions. It stayed there well and did its job again. It felt different on the sofa compared to the bed but in a good way.
I would highly recommend buying this one at the higher price point due to the more luxurious feel to it and the size as some of these blankets can come up on the small side, but we certainly weren’t disappointed. It's well worth the money.
I’m looking forward to taking it on a romantic picnic for us to get up to some naughty fun in the sun.
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