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Module One - Meditation And Journaling

Unmasking Your Triggers: Why Your Body Goes into Fight or Flight

Have you ever felt a sudden surge of panic, an inexplicable burst of anger, or that familiar knot of anxiety, even when there's no visible threat? You're not alone. This is your incredible body's ancient alarm system kicking in – the Sympathetic Nervous System, or what we commonly call Fight or Flight.

Let's pull back the curtain on the key players behind these powerful responses:

Meet Your Amygdala: The Brain's Vigilant Watchdog

Deep within your limbic, emotional brain, lies a powerful, almond-shaped structure: the Amygdala. Think of it as your brain's primal survival expert, constantly scanning for anything that might threaten your basic needs – from safety to even intimacy.

When it perceives a threat (real or imagined), it instantly kicks off a cascade of responses designed to save you. Those sweaty palms, that racing heart? Yep, that's your amygdala in action!

This tiny powerhouse is crucial for:

  • Emotional Responses: It's the major processing center for intense emotions like fear, anxiety, anger, and even pleasure. It's designed to identify threats and trigger a swift, protective reaction.

  • Memory Formation: Ever wonder why traumatic experiences stick with us so vividly? The amygdala stamps emotional content onto memories, ensuring we remember what might be dangerous.

  • Decision-Making: Alongside other brain regions, it plays a role in how we make rapid, often instinctual, choices.

But what happens when this system goes into overdrive? You've likely experienced an "amygdala hijack" – that moment when your emotions completely take over, disabling your logical frontal lobes, leading to sudden, irrational reactions that pull you straight into fight or flight.

The Hypothalamus: Your Body's Master Regulator Gone Rogue

Nestled at the base of your brain, the Hypothalamus is your body's ultimate peacekeeper, constantly working to maintain balance (your "status quo"). It meticulously monitors everything from blood pressure and body temperature to appetite.

However, when a trigger ignites that anxiety and stress response, the hypothalamus lights up like a Christmas tree, unleashing a flood of cortisol and adrenaline. Suddenly, you're experiencing:

  • Sweaty palms

  • Nervousness

  • Shallow breathing

  • A pounding heart

  • Heightened senses... and so much more.

Your body believes it's been "hijacked"!

Here's the critical part: while these physiological changes are designed for immediate, physical danger (like running from a lion!), our modern lives constantly activate this ancient system with non-physical threats. An argument, a stressful email, even a simple question from your partner can trigger the exact same intense stress response.

And here's the kicker: many of these ingrained triggers stem from childhood, meaning for many of us, our bodies are almost constantly in this heightened fight or flight state.

From Trigger to Transformation: Your Path to Peace

When you're triggered, it often feels like a whirlpool of shame, frustration, resentment, or anger, leaving you feeling utterly helpless. But here's the liberating truth: YOU ARE NOT HELPLESS. You can absolutely do something about it!

Think of your triggers not as weaknesses, but as powerful indicators of unmet needs. They're your body's urgent signal that something needs attention, that it's perceiving "danger ahead."

Now, we're probably not outrunning lions on the African plains anymore. Our "lions" are often work stress, home pressures, relationship dynamics, or even intimacy challenges. But here's the magic: you can transform these triggers into tools for profound growth.

Your mission, should you choose to accept it (and you already have by being here!), is to address these discomforts and forge new, calming habits.

By consistently engaging with the powerful tools and techniques in this course – your meditations, breath work, journaling practices, and everything else we'll explore – you are actively retraining your body to shift into its Parasympathetic Nervous System: your "rest and digest" mode.

It takes time to rewire old patterns, but every conscious effort is your body's resounding "thank you!" It's saying, "Yes, I need to breathe right today. I need to release these triggers." Your true triggers lie far deeper than the surface event.

This course is your roadmap to achieving that calm, regulated state. You are building the foundation to move through thoughts and feelings with clarity, staying grounded and at peace.

Get ready to shed those negative triggered feelings and step into a calmer, more connected you!

Wheel Of Love Activity
 

Wheel of Life although ours is called Wheel Of Love
 

The original idea behind the Wheel of Life came from industry pioneer Paul J. Meyer in the 1960s to help people realize their goals.
 

While the wheel today has many different forms and names, including the Life Balance Wheel, Coaching Wheel, and the Wheel of Success, they share a common purpose: transformation.
 

The Wheel of Life exercise is widely used in coaching and beyond and offers a practical and flexible tool for you to assess your needs and set goals aligned with your core values.
 

Its beauty is its simplicity.
 

The wheel typically consists of between eight and ten categories essential for a fulfilling wonderful love life.

Segments within the Wheel Of Love include:

 

  • Relationship

  • In Love

  • Intimacy

  • Arguments

  • Fun

  • Trust

  • Communication

  • Listening

  • Finances

  • Growth

 

A score is placed in each segment to reflect the current level of satisfaction using a spider web style.

Using the diagram below, place a dot next to the number of the appropriate dimension and then connect up the dots to make shape.
 

The Wheel of Love provides a snapshot of your relationship and the level of satisfaction in your current circumstances.
 

At a high level, the exercise provides insight into whether or not your relationship is in balance. From a more detailed perspective, it captures whether individual areas of your relationship are either meeting your needs and making you happy or leaving you dissatisfied and discontented.
 

By scoring each category, you identify areas that need support and improvement to reach individual and overall romantic goals.
 

The process of writing down, reviewing, and agreeing upon ratings not only provides input to the goal-setting process, but also offers insights into areas of your relationship which are causing you difficulty.

Once completed, look at the outside of the wheel, discuss its overall shape, and consider the total relationship balance.
 

Now I would like you to answer these following questions on your relationship satisfaction based on what you have written down on your wheel:

 

  • When you look at the shape of the wheel, how do you feel?

  • How would you like to change the shape of the inner wheel?

  • What surprises you the most?

  • What would a score of ten look and feel like?

  • Which category would you most like to improve?

  • What category would you most like to start with?

  • At present, how do you spend time in each area?

  • What do you need to improve the score in each area?

  • What small steps would have the most significant impact on your satisfaction?

  • Could a single action improve more than one area?

 

If you would like we can hop on a call and discuss this further.
 

So go and download the Wheel Of Love below and lets get started. Click on the image.

Affirmations To Make Your Relationship Amazing

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Daily Affirmations

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Meditation Guide Lesson

Cultivating Calm: Your Guide to Meditation and Relaxation

If you're one of the many who battle an overactive mind and a constant stream of thoughts, this guide is for you. I've created this Meditation and Relaxation guide to help you completely unwind and begin inviting true calmness into your life.

As you dedicate more time to focusing on yourself, you'll discover a growing courage to communicate more openly and authentically with your partner. Remember, the power to transform your inner world, and in turn your relationships, is already within you.

This practice will profoundly benefit your mind, concentration, and overall health and well-being. Feeling overwhelmed by life's demands or a demanding job? Try this simple yet powerful technique: gather all your racing thoughts, place them gently into an imaginary bubble, and then, with a deep exhale, watch them float away. As you do this, quietly affirm to yourself: "Relax, refresh, recharge."

As Bryant McGill wisely put it, "Your calm mind is the ultimate weapon against your challenges. So, relax." Let's begin to sharpen that weapon together.

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I Am Attracting My Perfect Relationship Meditation

Join Gemma where she explores affirmations and positive vibes for you to attract your perfect relationship. It allows you to heal broken wounds and a broken heart. Allow Gemma to take you through a guided meditation.

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00:00 / 07:00

Deep Rest And Relaxation Yoga Nidra
Join Gemma where she takes you through a deep rest and relaxation guided yoga nidra meditation. Allow the whole body to feel fully calm, rested, and in a deep state of relaxation. Let Gemma guide you on this journey of self-discovery.

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00:00 / 34:09

I Am Me Meditation

Why are we so judgmental of ourselves? Allow this meditation to guide you through a thought process for you to feel fully relaxed and acceptive of who you really are. Be free to discover who you truly are. I am me, I am unique in every way.

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00:00 / 05:51

Create A Safe Internal Space

Join Gemma where she takes you through a guided safe space affirmation meditation for you to feel fully connected to your inner guidance and for you to feel fully loved by yourself. Feel calm and relaxed. 

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00:00 / 06:03

Gratitude Meditation

Listen to a 12-minute gratitude meditation that will allow you to fully connect to your inner guidance, allowing your mind to be free. We have so much brain fog and brain chatter that this is a really good way to connect with your inner voice and release all the brain fog. 

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00:00 / 10:38

Guided Shower Meditation

Allow the visualization of the water flowing over your head and down your body or allow it to pass down from your chest. On your first inhale, imagine breathing in positive energy, positive thoughts and positive vibes. On your exhale imagine all of your negative thoughts and negative energy flowing out of your body, off your body and then down through the plug hole, vanishing forever. Let all your worries disappear and feel amazing and alive afterwards. 

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00:00 / 07:44

Your Perfect Day Meditation

Join Gemma for this Perfect Day meditation. Take yourself off to your perfect day where you can visualise it in your mind. Feel calm, relaxed, and happy. You will be able to manifest this as you will always be able to come back to this whenever you are feeling a little down and deflated.

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00:00 / 18:58

Money Manifestation Meditation

What in your life do you so desire at this precise moment in time? It can be anything, small, big, absolutely anything. Know that the universe has your back when it comes to anything that you desire. Use this meditation every night before you go to sleep and call in large amounts of money to have the dream life you desire. This is a truly magical experience. So trust and believe in yourself that you can have whatever you wish. 

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00:00 / 11:28

Guided Forest Visualisation Meditation

Take yourself off to a beautiful forest through this guided meditation where you will meet birds, deer, wildlife, listening to a babbling brook and drift off into a deep sleep. Feel calm, relaxed and happy here. 

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00:00 / 14:45

Mediterranean Meditation

Take yourself off to the beautiful island of Mallorca, listening to the evening bird song while visualizing the calm serenity of the island of a warm summer's evening. Feel calm, relaxed, and happy after this 19-minute meditation. 

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00:00 / 17:03

Guided Beach Visualisation Meditation

Drift off wherever you are listening to a guided meditation, visualising a beautiful calm beach, while sat at a palm tree, feeling the warm sun beaming down on you and a gentle breeze blowing. Allow your thoughts to drift away and feel calm and relaxed. 

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00:00 / 11:02

Ocean Meditation

Allow your mind to be transported to a secluded beach in the middle of nowhere. Calm your mind, visualizing your body, mind, and soul feeling connected to the ocean. Feel the calm cool waters surrounding your body and ridding any anxiety and tension from your body. Track contains faint ambient sounds in the background.

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00:00 / 11:57

Guided Candle Visualisation

Let yourself be guided by a Candle visualisation focusing on the flame and drawing your mind to relax through the calming voice of Gemma. Enjoy feeling fully relaxed releasing stress from your day. Enjoy. 

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00:00 / 12:18

Guided Flame Visualisation Meditation

Let yourself be guided by a Flame visualisation focusing on the flame and drawing your mind to relax through the calming voice of Gemma. Enjoy feeling fully relaxed releasing stress from your day. Enjoy. 

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00:00 / 10:51

Brain & Heart Coherence | Law Of Attraction

This guided practice based on the teachings of Dr Joe Dispenza aims to bring higher states of self-consciousness and brain coherence. Allow whatever your mind wants to manifest, know that this manifestation meditation will bring you closer to what your heart desires.

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00:00 / 27:33

I Am Enough

Join Gemma where she guides you through a meditation for you to be enough, no more wanting or reaching for your desired life. Let it all come to you. Affirmations for you to be enough and no more answering to anyone, just yourself. This track contains ambient sounds in the background

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00:00 / 15:16

Daily Journal Practice: Your Space to Unwind

Whether you're a seasoned journaler or just dipping your toes in, this practice is a powerful tool for clarity and peace. I've personally turned to journaling during the most challenging times, like navigating a miscarriage and the brink of losing my relationship. It truly helped me process emotions and find my way forward.

Journaling offers a profound release for all those stresses and negative feelings that build up in your mind. It's also an incredible way to gain a clearer vision of where you want to be in life. You can choose to write it out by hand or even speak your thoughts into your phone.

The beauty of journaling is that it's entirely yours. Perhaps you'll be drawn to a beautiful, inspiring journal with a cover that resonates deeply with you – there are so many wonderful options out there. (While I considered including one in this program, I believe choosing your journal is a very personal and special decision.) Or maybe you prefer the convenience of typing your thoughts on a laptop or tablet. Whatever you choose, know that you're doing something incredible by simply releasing your thoughts onto paper or into your device. Your mind will thank you for it.

You might even find a favorite pen, one that holds sentimental value, just for your journaling practice. I certainly have mine!

Use this journal however you desire. Embrace the process, and most importantly, enjoy the journey of self-discovery and release.

Weekly Journal Practice PDF

Monthly Journal Practice PDF

Journal Practice Video

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